I keep meaning to explain this to you in a very conversational way, but somehow there never seems to be enough time to be able to really just "talk" to you. This schedule really--what do you guys say? BMS? Is that right? Well, if that's right then that is what this schedule does.
Anyway, my dude John Wooden used to tell his UCLA players that being successful on the court meant nothing without being successful as a human. No surprise there, and certainly not an original idea but Wooden didn't just preach it--he made his players LIVE it. They all had to come up with their own blueprint of success that was modeled around a few tenets which they could apply to all aspect of their lives. (a tenet is a principle or a belief) He called this list of tenets a 7-point Creed. This was the name of a list his own father, Joshua, had given to him when he was about to go into middle school. It read as follows:
Anyway, my dude John Wooden used to tell his UCLA players that being successful on the court meant nothing without being successful as a human. No surprise there, and certainly not an original idea but Wooden didn't just preach it--he made his players LIVE it. They all had to come up with their own blueprint of success that was modeled around a few tenets which they could apply to all aspect of their lives. (a tenet is a principle or a belief) He called this list of tenets a 7-point Creed. This was the name of a list his own father, Joshua, had given to him when he was about to go into middle school. It read as follows:
* Be true to yourself.
* Make each day your masterpiece.
* Help others.
* Drink deeply from good books, especially the Bible.
* Make friendship a fine art.
* Build a shelter against a rainy day.
* Pray for guidance and give thanks for your blessings every day.
If you don't know who John Wooden is, look him up--his story is quite remarkable. As a coach, I deeply admire him and the things he has accomplished. As a human being, he is amazing in every sense of the word and one of the few people I can honestly say I aspire to emulate. As you know, I don't say that about very many people. He is also the renowned author of last's week's blog title--I reallllly like the guy.
In any case, your task for this week is to come up with your own 7-Point Creed and share it here.
Along with the list of statements that encapsulate your belief, you should also provide some sort of description or explanation about how this belief inspires you, keeps you grounded, motivates you, etc.
I know that this is not something you can do in two days. And this is why I am extending the deadline until Friday (Oct.26) night. You will really need to put a lot of thought into this.
Ask yourself these questions to help you along:
Along with the list of statements that encapsulate your belief, you should also provide some sort of description or explanation about how this belief inspires you, keeps you grounded, motivates you, etc.
I know that this is not something you can do in two days. And this is why I am extending the deadline until Friday (Oct.26) night. You will really need to put a lot of thought into this.
Ask yourself these questions to help you along:
What do I value?
What are my morals?
How do I want to be perceived by others?
What do I want my legacy to be?
What have I learned in my life?
What else do I want to learn?
Now, I certainly don't want you to answer those questions and consider that to be your creed. Remember, a creed is a sort of guideline for living, but it is also completely subjective. Look at Wooden's creed again. The statements there are kind of ambiguous and can be open to interpretation, don't you think? So, when you are doing this, try to keep that in mind. However, it is precisely BECAUSE the statements are ambiguous that you will have to explain what you mean by them, what they mean to you and why you chose them. Always the why.
What you are basically doing is creating a blueprint all your own, by which you can live your life. YOUR life. Nobody else's.
After all, who is more important than you?
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ReplyDelete1.Don’t get wrapped up in the bad things going on in the world
ReplyDelete-There are enough bad things going on in the world to drive someone insane if they pay to much attention to it, stay out of it, it’s not worth the effort to get so worked up.
2.Family and Friends come before all else
-Nothing and no one comes before your family and friends, no sport or event or grade, at the end of the day all you have is your family and friends.
3.Peoples opinions do not matter
-Just like with all the terrible things in the world, everyone's got an opinion and they are not always gonna be good opinions of you, they don’t matter if you try to please everyone you’ll end up tearing yourself apart.
4.Treat everyone with respect
-Just like the golden rule treat people how you wish to be treated, I don’t mind busting stones and joking, I love it, but at the end of the day everyone no matter who they are gets treated with respect
5.Don’t take anything from anyone
-You can’t let people treat you like a punching bag or you’ll be just that to them, something to beat up on when they’re bored or angry. You give what you get.
6.Protect what's yours
Protecting what’s yours means your family and friends, your personal belonging, moral code, anything you have that is worth protecting you do.
7.Help who you can
-You have to help people because in the end the people you help can sometimes come back to help you back and it is morally just.
Surround yourself with people who make you most comfortable. This will create you to be a better person overall.
ReplyDelete- Be positive. Whether it’s spreading it or keeping that mentality, a big part of me feels the need to enforce others to be positive in any way.
- Keep your mind open. never jump to conclusions, try new things, think before you speak. I feel as if this creates you to live a better life.
- Count your blessings. Be grateful for everything you have. List what you are thankful for in each day. This will make you see the good in everyday.
- Put all of your effort in everything you do. This is important to me because I feel like what is the point of saying something or reacting a way if you don’t gain anything from it.
- Live each day as your last. I think if you waste a day being miserable due to failing one minor quiz then you really aren’t living your life to the fullest, aiming to make everyday a good day is the best way;)
- Always aim to be what you find inspiring in others. If you can accomplish something you always liked about someone else then you can set a great role model for someone else to create a better environment.
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ReplyDeleteI’ve always wanted to have my own creed but, I don’t know why I never tried to do one. Maybe because I know that I’m too lazy to the point that even if I had one I will not follow it and might not even include it. See, I always have that feeling before doing anything or making any decision in my life, that feeling either tells me that I’m going to succeed or I’m going to fail. Tbh I hate that feeling so much because sometimes you’re just wrong about yourself, sometimes we underestimate ourselves. It’s my fault and I know that for sure, no question, I should not let this feeling control my life because it will cause me to underestimate myself just like always. Maybe this blog is going to solve my problem, maybe it will solve it because I never attempted to write my own creed even though I’ve been wanting to do this mad long. So, maybe if I finally step up and attempt to write my own creed and follow it, I might lose this feeling and I might become a better person that knows their goal in life and knows their path.
ReplyDelete-No more regret
Regret is the worst pain in life, at least that’s what I think. I’m the best at regretting every single thing I do in life even if I was very confident about what I did I would still regret it, I guess it became a habit. So I will try to stop doing that and I’m sure that I will become a stronger person if I stop doing that.
-Work hard
Not just in school but, in general. There is a quote that I believe in and I always use it (and by me saying “use it” I actually mean think about it but never use it or execute it, it’s just there in my mind chillin because I’m too lazy to execute it) which is “You can’t climb the ladder of success with your hands in your pockets”- Arnold Schwarzenegger. There is also another quote that I will always believe in and will never get tired of saying it to myself which is “Don’t count the days, Make the days count” by Muhammad Ali. Work hard today so my future self could thank my old self in the future.
-God first
Oh this man, I love him so much. He never gave up on me and he always shows me the right path but, my dumb ass will never learn. I just love god so much because even if the closest people to your heart gave up on you, he will never give up on you and he will always be there for you even if you don’t obey him he will care about you (These are MY PERSONAL beliefs) so, I wish that I won’t disappoint him in the future.
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ReplyDelete-Never underestimate yourself
This only happens during school, I always underestimate myself before tests, quizzes or whateva. This negativity brings dyspepticness which brings failure….yes….failure (which I have experienced before). Never underestimate yourself no matter what because you never know what kind of good things can come out of you when you’re positive about yourself and the environment surrounding you.
-Surround yourself with the right people
Sometimes surrounding ourselves with a lot of people is not good because you never know who truly loves you and who doesn’t or who wishes you da best and who wishes you da worst. Try to pick the right people, people that love you, not people that love making drama.
-Count your blessings and be thankful
Always be thankful of what you have because there’s always someone that wishes to have at least some of what you have, so be thankful and stop complaining about getting the best things.
-Love yourself
Love myself because myself deserves to be loved. I always consider myself the luckiest kid on the planet because I have amazing parents and especially my mother that will always be my idol, my hero, and my everything. Yes I do have a lot of people that love me so much and vice versa but all of this love is meaningless if I don’t love myself. How can you know the feeling of love when you don’t have it? This is unfair for you and especially the people around you because if you don’t know what love is or if you don’t have it for yourself then how are you going to give it to other people? #tumblrquotes “In order to give love, you have to have it first.”
(I know that my response is super long but, answering this blog really helped me. I’m sowwy.)
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ReplyDelete1. Do not move backwards, always move forward in what you do.
ReplyDeleteWhat this means is that you should never put yourself into a position where you need to move back down the “ladder” of life. You should always strive to move forward in life in any aspect, social, economic, academic, whichever aspect you can move up in.
2. The people closest to your heart should be kept and should come first.
This means that the people you care about the most should always come first in your life, over all else. These people are the most important people in your life, they should be kept in your life, and loved in your life. Whoever it may be, family, friends, partners, whoever they may be, should be held to that accord.
3. Hesitance is a killer, do not let it kill you.
This more applies to me personally, but do not hesitate to do things in life. Do not wait for the last minute to complete important tasks, because you will regret not doing it way sooner. This can apply to school, but the hesitance outside of school is the true killer. Do NOT let it kill you.
4. The more open your mind, the more understanding you will become.
Keep an open mind on everyone which presents itself to you. There is often, if not always another side to things in life and you should look at that before making a decision. You do not necessarily have to like the other side, but you should always respect the person and not degrade them for their decision.
5. “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?”
This is a quote from Steve Jobs, the now deceased Apple co-founder. What this means to me is that you should always life each day in enjoyment of what you will do. It is okay to say no, because a last day in school wouldn’t exactly be the greatest. But if you go too long saying no, then something must be changed.
6. Live as yourself and know yourself, rather than trying to live as someone else.
Do not live yourself in someone else’s shoes, because you will not be happy with what you have done. Everyone is unique and can have the potential to do fantastic things, and this potential is locked if you live as someone else. Do not be afraid to be you.
7. There is always a light in a shroud of darkness, become true with yourself.
You will be okay. Learn to be good with yourself, because that is the key to enjoying a fantastic and wonderful life. Do not leave behind a legacy which you would be disappointed in, leave behind something great, something extraordinary, something which you can be proud of.
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ReplyDeleteI have always had my own creed mentally stored in my mind. I touch on it at times but seeing it with my eyes and not in my thoughts seems to bring it more to my attention.
1- Keep an open mind
- An open mind is the only way to allow change and think differently. You have this because you need to understand all aspects and improve.
2- Stop worrying so much about a certain outcome or the past
- Worrying gets in the way of a relaxed and positive mindset and living in the past will not allow change or a fresh start. You believe the past will happen again and are too focused on the negative things.
3- Focus on the needs of yourself
- Without being self-centered, focus on what you need to improve while trying to be happy and healthy. You worry and sacrifice for others until you realize it's not healthy and it builds up.
4- Do not be a slacker and do everything to your full potential
- This is the way to keep moving forward and not be stuck in one
spot. You procrastinate a lot so this will push you.
5- Be honest and have integrity
- Cheating and lying isn't the right path to success. You can be
peer pressured sometimes so hard work and honesty is the way.
6- Take opportunities
- Opportunities bring more experience and knowledge that could always lead to success and benefits. Come out of your comfort zone and take risks
7- Be reasonable with yourself and have gratitude
- You are human and will make mistakes and can't control everything. Give yourself credit for current and past accomplishments and that you are fortunate in some ways others are not.
1. Believe patterns not apologies.
ReplyDeleteTheir apology is meaningless if they do not fix the way they have acted. A genuine apology includes breaking the pattern. The same goes for yourself, if you are truly sorry you will fix your behavior. Make your apology worthwhile.
2. Do unto others as they would do unto themselves.
I oppose the typical “treat others the way you want to be treated” aka the “Golden Rule.” On the surface it seems like a good thing to follow, however I question it because not everybody is the same. We all deal with situations differently and therefore we have different needs. Treat people the way THEY want to be treated. It’s our responsibility to ask and tell people how we want to be treated.
3. Appreciate solitude.
I feel like we learn so much about ourselves when we’re alone. I think it’s good to spend time with just ourselves, recharge our batteries, and try to further understand ourselves. In solitude we can better reflect and understand the world.
4. Create balance in life.
It’s important that you prioritize elements of your life. To have a sense of balance in life, it can help you feel less stressed, and grounded. For example, if school, being social, and work are important to you, balance those things equally in your life. Don’t spend too much time being social when you have homework, and don’t get too wrapped up in school when you haven’t taken care of yourself in a while.
5. Reward and value yourself.
I need to follow this more often, I deal so much with negative self talk, I forget to take time to reflect on myself and realize my self worth. Often times I feel like I have my rational side of my brain and the irrational side. It’s helpful to remind myself that the self loathing internal monologue is coming from the irrational part of myself. I remind myself that my thoughts do not define me. Furthermore, instead of being so critical of myself, I have been working to try to list the things about myself that are more positive. This helps me in realizing my value, and thus rewarding myself more and not being so hard on myself.
6. Ask for help when you need it.
There have been so many times where I have needed help and I was too scared of asking for it. It is hard to find the strength to do that, and the resources as well. This statement is the most universal one, I believe. When you find yourself struggling with work, school, your mental health, relationships, and many other things it can feel shameful to realize that you need some guidance or help. We don’t realize that there are most definitely people around us that will assist us when we need it. You are not a bad person if you need help.
7. You are not worth your productivity.
The American capitalist society we live in glorifies hyperproductivity. Overworking does not equal success. Wealth and social status is not your worth. It is okay to take days off, I believe it is even necessary. The relationship between productivity and happiness is most definitely questionable. It is dangerous to attach material things to your self worth. Recognize that your self worth comes from character.
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ReplyDelete1. Don’t let negative comments affect you in a negative way
ReplyDeleteWhen people say negative things to you or about you, you shouldn’t let it make you upset or ruin your day, instead use it to make things more positive.
2. Positivity
The last one goes into this, whether it's about making a positive impact on others or about you, there is no need for negativity and by spreading positivity it will help yourself and others.
3. Protect what you have
When it comes to your physical items or yourself mentally, don’t allow others to take stuff from you and get away with it, if you let them get away with it then its just making it seem ok.
4. Don’t be scared to ask
If you need help with something, it will not usually result bad when you ask for help, if you think it's a dumb question or you're scared to ask the benefits will be totally worth it, so do it.
5. Help others
When someone seems like they are in need of help, Help them! Don’t just push it off to another person, if you can help then you should. If everyone is like this then it will help the world become a better place.
6. Treat other people like you want to be treated
I know this is literally the golden rule and is said by everyone, but its cause it's very useful. The way you treat someone should be the same as you want to be treated, nice and kind. I'm pretty sure most people would want to be treated this way, and you too.
7. Don’t take things for granted
Appreciate the things and opportunities you are given, they can help you tremendously. And if you take them for granted they may not be available ever again.
1) Don’t let your failures define you
ReplyDelete- Don’t be too hard on yourself and learn from your mistakes. This is one of the hardest lessons I have yet to learn. It can be a challenge for me sometimes when the failures can overcome any little victory, but I try not to let them pull me under. I know I’m young and whatnot, but many aspects in our society are crap and can really make you feel miserable. The weight we put in ridiculous tests and assignments that do absolutely nothing other than make us stressed, it’s easy to understand why so many of us are pulled down.
2) Always find the light
- Life will suck if you don’t find the light. It doesn’t matter who you are or what you are doing, there is always going to be a light. It could be the smallest spark or the brightest fire, yet there is a reason to what you’re doing. Sometimes things get hard and everyone leaves you on your own, but remember to think that there is a benefit and a positive outcome. The light can be a person, place, thing, or even a reason to keep on improving day by day.
3) Make sure whatever you do has a point
- Accomplishing pointless things makes no difference in your life. Accomplishing a goal, on the other hand, can help you improve and become a better person. Having a reason behind what you’re trying to do will be much more beneficial. It can be as little giving someone a compliment or recycling a water bottle. Both things have a point, or a purpose, that leave you and someone else feeling a little better than before.
4) Leave room for adventure
- There is always time for adventure. You could be the busiest person in the world, but adventure will always come your way. I believe that it is important to realize the adventure that life provides. We are very curious creatures anyways, so might as well enjoy the small amount of time we have and learn about anything or act upon anything. Every day is an adventure since you have new conversations, have new stories to tell, new people to meet, etc.
5) “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards”
- This is a quote by Søren Kierkegaard, a Danish philosopher from the 19th century. Though different people have different interpretations, I think this quote is basically saying that the past may make up who we are, so instead of constantly worrying about what happened in the past, we need to look towards the future. Nobody cares about that awkward encounter in let’s say the 8th grade other than you. If you keep going back and looking in the past, life is gonna move ahead without you. Obviously, the past teaches you plenty of lessons, you still have to keep going.
6) The more challenges you overcome, the more you’ll benefit
- Life is going to get harder. That is something anything can tell you. However, if you continue overcoming the challenges thrown at you, you’ll probably end up in a good spot. The challenges will teach you new ways to defeat your opponents and new methods to fight back. I like to think of it as a video game since you always know when you’re going the right way if you keep encountering enemies.
7) Ask for help even if it hurts to do so
- We were raised in a society where we’re taught that we can look dumb if we ask for help. It’s easy to tell yourself that, too. If you don’t ask for help when you need it, then it is really not benefitting anyone. No one knows you’re struggling or don’t understand something (especially in school) if you don’t speak up about it. It might hurt your pride a little by saying that you need help out loud, but you’re then only causing yourself more trouble if you don’t.
ReplyDelete1.remember where you started from- people tend to get so into their heads when they get successful but don’t remember who help get them where they are
2.respect others-this is as simple as day if you want respect you have to respect others
3.surround yourself with people that make you happy- life is easier when you have people whose company you enjoy
4.remember pain doesn’t last forever- there are gonna be hard points in life but you can get out of them and they don’t last forever
5.allow negativity to go over your head-we tend to get caught up into negativity and it’s just bad vibes that we don’t need in our lives
6.take a breather-taking a break is not being lazy it’s taking care of yourself and that is so important
7.be accountable for your actions -when you own up to your wrong doings you’re bettering yourself and changing yourself for the good
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ReplyDeleteThe first point on my seven point creed might seem a bit cliché but listen.
ReplyDelete- ALWAYS do WHATEVER makes your heart happy.
You live your life for the sole purpose of fulfilling your hearts needs. Do it for yourself. Not for the vine. Not for your friends. Not for yo’ momma and daddy either. For yourself.
- Keep a pure heart.
Hate is the epitome of destruction. Keep your heart full of love, whilst protecting it from hurt. Keep a walk up but don’t push people away. Don’t let the pain in other people ruin what a great heart you have.
- Always keep positive people in your company.
Birds of the same feather, flock together. If you surround yourself with negative Nancy’s, you become one. Find people with the same ambitions as you, the same loyalty as you, and the same love as you. Keep them close.
- Learn to forgive.
Sometimes you have to forgive in order to move on. If you keep any hate or hold any grudges in your heart you don’t get to see the lesson. You don’t get to grow.
- This one’s for my ladies. Find your glow!
Don’t let anyone tilt your crown queen. Better yourself everyday and be the best version of yourself. Take care of yourself. Love yourself. Be your own bestfriend.
- Put your best foot forward.
Walk with your head high. Put your all into everything you do. That’s what makes it worth doing. Don’t ever let anyone knock you down. Whatever it is you wanna do, strive to be the greatest at doing it. Always give yourself that pat on the back.
Lastly, but not least.
- Pray.
Talk to your god. Whether it is Jesus, Allah, a Buddah, WHOEVER you believe is up there, talk to him. Talk to him about your feelings, about your thoughts, about your goals and dreams. Talk to him about your health, your family, your mind. Ask him to heal you, ask him to provide emotional guidance, and mental strength and stability. He’s there and he works. He makes things happen. Try not to do so much questioning. Try to see the greater good. Try to understand the reasons behind his actions.
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DeleteMy 7 Point Creed:
ReplyDelete*Don’t be jealous of what others have, and focus on yourself.
-If you constantly compare yourself with others you will never feel successful or satisfied with what you have. Being bitter and jealous all the time is no way to live, enjoy what you have in life and be grateful.
*Respect others opinions and life choices. Have an open mind.
-Just because you have a different view on things doesn’t mean you should criticize others. Everyone likes a friendly debate and it’s the differences between us that make us human, but acts of hatred should never be committed against someone because of their lifestyle.
*Be comfortable and happy in your own skin. Love yourself.
-The key to a happy life is to love and be comfortable with yourself. It’s hard to be successful when you yourself don’t have faith and love yourself.
*See the positive of bad situations
-Lots of tragedy’s happen in life, there is no way to avoid that. It’s how you respond to the tragedy’s that is key. You can’t let things get to you too much and you should find the good in things to keep you going.
*Stop worrying about the future and live in the moment.
-If you are constantly worried about the future, life is just going to pass you by. Take time and enjoy the present because nothing will be the same again.
*Avoid over analyzing situations
-Constantly over analyzing things will make you crazy with paranoia. Sometimes people read too much into things and it causes unnecessary drama and issues that could’ve been avoided.
*Drop your ego and let others help you when you need it.
-It is okay to ask for help if you need it. Don’t think that you are stupid if you need help. It is okay to get assistance. Some people are just more skilled at certain topics and that’s okay.
1.Never give up
ReplyDelete- No matter how hard or stressful something is, don’t give up on it because then, you will never be able to reach your goal.
2. Be nice and help others
-Treat people that way that you want to be treated and help people whether they are your friend or not.
3. Set goals
-Have something to work towards everyday, but make the goal achievable so you know that someday you might achieve it.
4. Be your own person
-Don’t let people’s ideas and comments impact who you are as a person, be whoever you want to be.
5. Focus on what you have and not what you want
-Be thankful for the little things that you have access to that other people don’t.
6. Be with the people that you love
-Surround yourself with your family and friends that make you happy because they are one of the most important things in your life.
7. Live life to the fullest
-Don’t let a day go by that makes you think that you could have done something better or tried something that you thought wasn’t impossible
* Your days can only be as good as you make them: You control yourself and allow yourself to feel certain ways. If you don’t allow yourself to be happy then it cannot possibly happen.
ReplyDelete* Never settle for less than you deserve: People tend to learn to deal with the people who are toxic to their lives. This winds up causing them hurt, but it can be avoided if they only allow the people who will positively benefit them to take part in their life.
* Learn from your mistakes: If people were to give up after they experience failure, there wouldn’t e professional athletes or professional anything. We need to learn how to adjust and fix the things we may be doing wrong in order to make them right. When we do this, it strikes determination and purpose into our lives.
*Don’t let others opinions hold you back: You can’t take criticism to heart, or shut down when you become aware of others judging you. Nothing should stop anyone from doing the things you love. You have to work hard to be where you want to be and prove the ones who doubted you wrong.
*Live in the moment: If we were to be scared to do things because of something else later on in life, there wouldn’t be any risks to take and life would become boring. Create new experiences each day and live life to the fullest.
*Speak up and defend what you love: If you feel so strongly towards something, then you should be able to express yourself and let others know your opinions If you’re silent how can anyone know what you’re thinking? Zora Neale Hurston once said, “If you are silent about your pain, they’ll kill you and say you enjoyed it.”
*You’re you and that is enough: You shouldn’t have to change who you are for others to approve or like you. The fact that social media has made people question themselves and become insecure because they aren’t just like famous people or models, makes me absolutely sick. Don’t change a thing if it isn’t for the sole purpose of bettering yourself for you. No one should possess the power to make you change the way you look, speak, or act because you’re seeking their approval. The things we see as “flaws” is what makes us different from everyone else and that’s perfectly fine.
1. Have an open mind
ReplyDeleteHaving the ability to listen and understand other perspectives is significant when communicating with others. The more narrow-minded someone is, the more complex it becomes to learn.
2. Everything happens for a reason
Life is unpredictable: it’s comprised of ups, downs and everything in-between. We need to remember that whatever happens, there is a reason and lesson behind it.
3. Look for the light in the darkness
There’s always a positive in every negative situation (even if it may not seem as such), it’s simply waiting to be found.
4. Family comes first
No matter what occurs throughout life, the people who remain by our side and continue to support us deserve to be valued above all else.
5. Be thankful for what life gives you
We focus more on what we want and strive for without appreciating what is already with us.
6. Nothing in life is given
Whatever we achieve is not handed to us, it must be obtained from hard work.
7. Enjoy life while we have it
We tend to work ourselves to no end and forget to enjoy the beauty of life. Everyone should remember to live life with no regrets.
*Don’t make someone have the power to make you feel bad about yourself
ReplyDeleteMany people made me feel bad about myself whether it's about my body or about who I am. I came to the point where I have a very low self-esteem and I am trying to regain, but I have made a rule to myself that no matter what a person says know who I am and no one could change that. I feel like if I do not follow this I will just keep going back to having an extremely low self-esteem.
*BE YOURSELF, and stop caring about what people think
When I came I did not know how people will judge me and I would always take every comment to heart. I kept trying too hard to make people like me to the point and I stopped acting like myself. I have to remind myself that nobody is like me I am unique, and if someone does not like me it does not matter because they will not get me anywhere in life.
*Stop worrying too much
I worry to a point where I drive myself crazy. I am not exaggerating, it's extremely bad. Whether is it about an assignment or just random stuff that when I think about it gets me scared.
*Appreciate the people around you who care about you and stop taking them for granted. But also don't trust everyone you meet.
Sometimes I feel like I take the people around me for granted just because they are always there, but when my cousin dies I realized not everybody is going to stick around, and surely not for me. But also, I trust people too fast which becomes a problem for me because I feel close to people really fats and I trust them. I always end up hurt and I am trying to give myself time to see if a person could be trusted or not.
*Don’t be afraid to express yourself and your opinion
I am always scared to say my opinion just because I think that people will judge me and they will hate me. Just because of that fear I would shut up a lot, even when I wanted to speak up my fears get the best of me.
*Live in the moment and stop worrying about what will happen after
I usually worry a lot about what will happen after that I ruin a good moment and that makes it hard for me to have fun. I will usually think ohh my mom and my dad will make me do this or she will say that. Or like I have to do an assignment (even though the assignment might be due in 2 weeks)
*Stop keeping everything inside
I usually can not express how I truly feel. When I am happy sometimes it seems like I do not care, but I do I am just bad at delivering it. Other times when I am sad, mad, or angry I keep all these feeling in and when I have filled up everything comes out at once.
My Seven Point Creed
ReplyDelete1. Never give up
-No matter how hard things get, I will always continue to try my best.
2. Stay Positive
- I won't let negativity get to me and I will use it to improve instead.
3. Always be kind to others
-Be nice to everyone around you and treat them with respect.
4. Focus on the future not the past
- You can't change what already happened, but you can focus on what you can still do.
5. Have no regrets
- Don't be afraid to try new things because it's better to fail than to regret not trying.
6. Focus on what you have, not what you don't
-Be grateful for everything you have instead of getting upset by what you don't.
7. Always help others
-If you can, always help other people out when they're in need.
I chose these seven things to live by everyday because if I follow them, I will be the best person I can be and will be as happy as I can be. Following this code will help me to keep with good morals and make other people see me as a good person. I have learned that following the guidelines of this creed will improve my life, and I want to add to it in the future.
1.Value the little things
ReplyDeletePeople tend to take for granted the small moments in life. I always try to remind myself to enjoy the small things in life because I feel they’re most important. It’s always nice to just step back and enjoy the moment and your surroundings, especially in this very busy and fast paced world we live in.
2.Remember your importance
Struggling with mental health has always made it hard for me to remember my importance and value as a person. I think that it’s a good point for anyone to follow. This world is so big and filled with so many people that sometimes we get caught up in our own head and forget our importance as individuals.
3.Don't let others affect your decisions
This is another big one for me. In the past I have let others affect my decisions, and it’s prevented me from doing what I actually wanted. I now don’t let other people make or affect my decisions, because at the end of the day it’s my life and my choice. And I continue to remind myself of this.
4.Show appreciation to others hard work
I think that as humans we don’t always appreciate what other people do for us. There aren’t enough good people in the world and it’s because of good deeds going unnoticed. Now I’m not saying to praise every person who does something good. But once in a while it’s nice to remind a person that they are appreciated.
5.You’re worth more than a letter grade
As students we tend to compare ourselves to the letter grades we have. I always forget that my grades don’t set my value. And this is something most of us can relate too. Especially as AP kids grades are very important and we forget that it’s not the end of the world if our grades aren’t up to our standards.
6. Never change to meet someone else’s standards
I think it’s important to stay true to yourself at all times. Never change yourself to meet someone else’s standards or to please someone else. Stay authentically you, you are amazing as you are and don’t need to change that.
7.accept your limitations
As people we forget that we’re human. There is only so much we can really do. It’s okay to accept your limitations and realize that you can’t do everything.
1. Be honest with yourself
ReplyDeleteYou can't improve yourself or do good things if you lie to yourself or keep denying something. You have to be honest to yourself before you can be honest to others.
2. Keep an open mind
You don't know what others have been through, so just remember that everybody has a story
3. Ask yourself, "What's the worst thing that can happen?"
Don't be too afraid to try something new or different. Change isn't always bad and you never know until you do it, but first you have to ask yourself this question to gain enough courage.
4. Don't forget the things you value the most
Sometimes, when life gets rough, you just have to think back to what means the most to you and act on that. Some decisions will suck and you have to choose what you value, whether it be trust, friendship, or honesty
5. Don't forget the things people have done for you
It's easy to forget how valuable some people are to you. There are too many things that people do for you that go unnoticed or that is forgotten. Actions mean more than words, so when someone does something for you, appreciate that because they're there for a reason.
6. You can't please everyone
It's simply not possible, so don't make yourself unhappy in order to make everyone else happy
7. Don't get caught up in the past
You can't change the past, so change the future. Learn from mistakes and live life for what it's worth, not what it could've been because there's always room for improvement.
I definitely can thank the people by my side for shaping me into who I am today. My journey through life has been introduced with numerous ups and downs that have changed my point of view for many things. I value honesty, I 100 percent respect someone who is able to tell me the truth straight to my face no matter the outcome. The truth is always bound to come out sometime but it never made sense to me as to why people try to hide it. Having courage is something everyone should acquire. During crew and volleyball season, my coaches always saw my lack of confidence. Not only is this seen in the sports I play but in my everyday life. I soon thought to myself what is there to be insecure about? As self centered as that sounds I realized the only way I could actually grow my confidence and courage is if I remind myself, even if I feel like all eyes are on me. Happiness has always been the toughest emotion for me to obtain. I had an emo stage from 6th to 8th grade, where I literally woke up and thought there is no hope for a sis. To be completely honest I started to learn how to truly be happy this year. There’s always going to be moments where I’m like wow bye y’all, but do I really want to spend days or months of my life dwelling about how everything sucks when I know I will never get that time back. The amount of time I took to write the first sentence of this blog will never be returned to me and I think that’s insane, I’m here for a good time not a long time so I will always find happiness in every misfortune. Being forgiving will always take time for me to learn, although I know It’s something I really want to be able to do. I believe in second chances because humans do make mistakes but learning how to forgive someone who screwed you over multiple times is the hardest thing anyone can do. I gave countless chances to family members and relationships yet I always found myself taking the blame for THEIR faults. Forgiving others who have done you so dirty is the only way to prove and acknowledge how strong you really are. LOYALTY notice how I put it in caps which probably means this one is a major key. Ride or Die type of people are truly a blessing and extremely rare. I struggle so much with trust issues, but knowing that either my friends or partner are nothing but faithful gives me stability. Open mindedness is unfortunately not found in some people’s vocabulary. There are differences throughout the world. There are different religions, races, and appearances. But if someone is slightly different from another, they automatically lose all respect? Giving love is something I try to do everyday, you never truly know what some people are going through. And you never know if this is your last day with them. Spread the love, everyone always needs some lovin.
ReplyDelete1. Treat others with respect.
ReplyDelete-We've all hear the phrase, treat others the way you want to be treated. It will carry on in life.
2. Never forget where you came from
-Where you came from shaped you as a person today. No matter how rich or famous you might get home will always be home.
3. Winners never quit, Quitters never win.
-Never quit on anything you've started. You've started it for a reason and that is to get to the finish line. If other can do it you can do it yourself too.
4. Family always comes first.
-Family will always be there for you. They are the one thing that will stay in your life. Friends come and go but family stays forever.
5. Have an open mind
-There are many things you don't know about the people you meet. Everyone has their own stories
6. Be yourself
-You don't have to please everyone. It's always to stay true to yourself and act the way you are, you will eventually meet those people who will like you for who you are
7. Learn from your mistakes
- In order to grow as a person, you will need to learn from your mistakes. You will learn many important life lessons by making mistakes. That's the first step in being a better person
I have always had my “morals” engraved in the back of my brain, so to speak. With this in mind, I’ve grown to tweak and modify them, even though I agree with most of what I grew up being taught. Things like the “Golden Rule”, unwavering respect for others, and standing my ground for things I believe in have remained a constant reminder of humility and have, thus far, provided a firm basis for where I am today. Even though I know the way that I should live my own life, it is difficult to put my beliefs into a 7-point “creed”, just because it feels SO much more than that. Regardless, allow me to try my best to sum them up for you:
ReplyDeleteBe open-minded, but never allow others to underfoot you and your beliefs
Don’t let anyone change your beliefs to fit their standards
Live a fulfilling, Christian life, putting the principles of wisdom and charity first
Stay humble in life, and stay close to your faith since often times, comfort is granted by it
It’s OKAY to say no to people
Don’t do what you don’t want to, just because you want to get someone off your tail. Do what YOU want!
Don’t overuse the word sorry
People are not always deserving of your apologies. Plus, its annoying when people say “sorry” alot. Looking at you, Canadians...
Love is a strong word, so use it wisely
Don’t ever “love” whoever you want, because in the end, that same “love” may be the one thing you will regret most in life.
Shyness only pulls you down
Being shy never comes with any benefits, so one should constantly stay open and attempt to interact with others. Never do something that won’t benefit you in one way or another!
Have fun with life, but treat it gently
Life is meant to be explored and interacted with, so never be afraid to try new things and do what you want to do. But always remember to pay attention to the lessons that life will enlighten you with information to be carried for a lifetime.
ReplyDeleteSurround yourself with supportive people
Without supportive influences around you, finding motivation can be really hard. Make sure those influences are positive, not influences that are negative such as peer pressuring friends or abusive people who bring you down
Good coping mechanism
If you are unable to cope with tough situation, then you’re allowing yourself to let that tough moment bring you down. Make sure its a positive coping mechanism not things like drugs or alcohol
Respect when respect is due
If you don’t treat people such as bosses, parents, stranger, teacher, etc.. with respect then you will be looked as a person not to respect.
Take care of yourself mentally and physically
If you don’t take care of your body and mind, then your life will overall suck. Take mental breaks often and learn to love yourself and exercise
Be your own person
Don't be a follower and have your own opinions on things. If you constantly agree with the majority, you will be pushed around and gain a reputation of being an ass kisser.
Ask for help and not be embarrassed by it
One thing I learned from school is that asking for help is way better than sitting there trying to figure it out yourself when you know that you have no idea what you’re doing. Sometimes losing a little bit of your pride is worth it.
Be humble
If you don't humble yourself once in a while, you won’t get far. If you think you’re number one all the time, once you get rejected, you won’t know what to do and will get angry at the rejection and blame everything and everyone but yourself.