Most of us have been there at one point; the ones who haven't will get theirs, eventually. IT IS INESCAPABLE....
There you are, innocently sitting there, eating your Cheerios or some other tasty snack, when it hits you. That flash of lightning that zips through your brain, jump starts your heart to the point of acrobatics, and sends the corners of your mouth into that half-circle of upward idiocy because that stupid grin won't stop spreading.
An image of the love of your life burns itself into your brain like a cheap plasma TV screen. Yup--it's love, and its got you in its grips. Muu ahhhhhahhhh.
If none of this sounds familiar to you--don't worry--you simply have no soul. ;) Just kidding--like I said, you'll get yours and it'll be just as described with different metaphors.
Not ever being privvy to this feeling does not preclude you from this blog question, though; no doubt, you've seen what looks like and that's as much as you need for this assignment.
First, define love. Nbd. Thousands upon thousands of poets, essayists, philosophers and the like have all tried to come up with a working definition--whose to say their version is better than yours? Do your best.
Have you ever been in love, or known someone who has?
Did their behavior change? Did yours?
Why do you think we are attracted to those we are?
What do you look for in potential relationships?
What is your idea of a "perfect" relationship?
Who taught you about love?
What is your earliest memory of "seeing" love?
Does that memory affect how you view the idea of love?
And, finally, what will you teach your future sons and daughters about the idea of love and relationships? Think about this one, and imagine what you wish you knew...
ReplyDeleteI can say that i’ve THOUGHT I was in love, but in all honesty I do not know what love is. Relationships around me (my parents) kind of gave me a terrible example into what love is. The type of love I experienced lead the person I was with at the time to be completely obsessed with me. Leaving me questioning and deciding oh crap is this love? At this age I really don’t think we can define love considering that we haven’t really explored our options nor have had enough experience. It’s the feeling that gets us so attached to the person, we’ve never felt that way before so when it occurs it’s like oh my god what is this? I don’t know what I look for in a relationship because I constantly find myself changing and going through things that lead me into having a different mindset than I had previously. No relationship is perfect but if you can make me laugh and cook a banging grilled cheese sandwich than count me in! I think I can say my sister taught me? I always look up to her and when she was in a relationship that wasn’t the best for her, I found myself in her exact footsteps. When my dad was with his wife at the time I could tell on the outside that they were really in love but as I got older I really saw what their relationship was and I was like yikes. That memory 100 percent affected my view of love cause when their marriage ended I constantly found myself asking my father why they divorced. I want my kids to know the distinct difference between right and wrong. If they find themselves crying over their significant other they should analyze the situation and depending if it was their fault or not, apologize for it. I want them to know that you shouldn’t change yourself to fit the needs of whoever they are with, they should love you for who you are. And lastly the most important in my opinion, if my kids see that they are being guilt tripped, doubting their worth and not genuinely happy, to leave the situation before too much damage is done. That is the worst feeling to ever feel.
I’ve never been in love, and I don’t even think I’ve actually seen anyone truly in love. Starting from a young age seeing my parent’s marriage and both of my older sister’s relationships I think my view of love became very distorted. I’m still trying to really figure out what it really is. But if I were to look for a relationship I think I would want my partner to have a good heart and be supportive of me. I think the foundation of a good and healthy relationship stems from honestly and trust. Without either of those things I don’t think a healthy relationship would even be possible. I don’t think a “perfect relationship” exists, I think it’d be okay to have disagreements and misunderstandings sometimes. Regardless however the mutual respect should still be there. I would tell my future children that abuse is not love. I would teach them the red flags of an abusive relationship to try to protect them from ever getting into a situation like that. Love shouldn’t hurt. You shouldn’t be scared of your partner. Your partner shouldn’t control you. I would teach them that love should be compassionate, and warm. Don’t look for happiness in one person. I would tell them to do what makes them happy. If they’re happy alone then that’s okay.
ReplyDeleteTo me, love means feeling a type of attachment for someone or something that gives you positive emotions. I don’t think I’ve ever been in real love. I’ve loved a person to a very deep point. I might’ve thought I was in love because of the attention and happiness I got from that person but I am still young and I don’t believe I’ve experienced real love yet. When I thought I was in love my emotions would be controlled by that person. I would be happy when I saw or talked to them but if I wasn’t getting the attention I was expecting then it made me miserable. I think we are attracted to those who we are because we see one trait we are attracted to and see the good in them even if they are toxic. In our eyes they are flawless and what we need. I don’t think a good relationship needs to be "relationship goals" or how long you can keep it. It needs to be something that is taken seriously and not pushed into. I expect both people to have loyalty, trust and patience. If there is no good communication skills or willingness to be open and accepting then there is nothing to keep in my opinion. My grandpa taught me about love. He was like my best friend so I would learn plenty from him. He would show me countless pictures of his wife and my grandma who I never met but heard plenty of stories about. The way he talked about her and told me how I should be treated and loved made me realize what love is. I would teach my future children to not rush into anything you aren’t ready for just because you think it is a good idea or are desperate. I would want them to know what is right and wrong and be confident about their relationship and choices. They should be open minded and accepting but follow the warning signs and get out of something they aren’t comfortable with.
ReplyDeleteLove is feeling affection for someone that you don't for anyone else because it's so strong and different from anything else. I've never been in love but I do know my parents. I obviously didn't know what they were like before, but I have seen other people change when they fall in love. We are attracted to specific people because everyone's personality is different and in each person is a characteristic that prefers specific traits in others. In a potential relationship, I look for trust because that's one of the most important characteristics in a lasting relationship. A perfect relationship would be a situation where both people can balance everything together and always be happy no matter what. I learned about love by just looking at others and gaining experience that way. My earliest memory of love was definitely my parents. Seeing a married couple seems different from pre-marriage love so it didn't really affect my views. I want my kids to learn for themselves what love is because they know themselves better than anybody, but the one thing I would say is to put yourself first because sometimes it's not worth hurting yourself for someone who's not worth it.
ReplyDeleteMy definition of love is when you’re attracted to a person who brings positivity into your life. I have not been in love, but a great example would be my parents. Their relationship is full of complete and utter trust. They are also both reliant on each other without getting to the point that one of them becomes a parasite. Both of them have their own responsibilities and help one another out. Therefore, I was lucky enough to grow up in home where I feel like I have a pretty good example of love and I was able to learn about love from what I saw so no one really taught me. Their relationship is one of my earliest memories of what I think is love and it 100% changes my idea of love. It’s important to remember that love is beautiful, but love can also be harmful. I am very glad to have seen the beauty of love and how it can make you a better person. I have also seen the darker side of love and hope I can avoid that if it ever happens to me. In potential relationships of my own, I would find someone who doesn’t want to rush like everyone else, but rather takes the time to build trust. In my opinion, the “perfect relationship” doesn’t exist. Arguments and small squabbles can sometimes be helpful in building the relationship, but, like I said before, there needs to be that trust. We are probably attracted to those that we are because their traits or personality appeals to us. They can be the brightest star in our eyes. I hope in the future, we teach our sons and daughters that they will probably get hurt and won’t find “the one” when they’re in high school. There will be bumps and happy moments, but the moment you are uncomfortable with something, you should accept the warning signs and leave. Also, that relationships can take a lot of time, but they shouldn’t worry about it until that time comes.
ReplyDeleteTo me, love is a type of feeling that overcomes you and makes you feel as happy, safe, protected, and trusted as possible. It feels like you've found a loyal companion who you know is always there for you and willing to do whatever it takes to make things right. It's almost like you want to spread the feeling you have with the other person and take in however much of it you can. Almost all of my family has been in love or is in love right now. One of my brothers and his girlfriend are so entirely in love, and just about anyone could tell. I've never seen his face light up as much as it did when his girlfriend drove to our house and surprised him the day before he left for med school. From the way they look at each other to the way they talk to each other, it definitely made my brother a lot happier and it makes me happy knowing they are so in love. His girlfriend even sets a timer that will tell her exactly when she will be ale to see him again, down to the second. I may have been in love at a certain point in time, but I'm not completely certain because I don't think he loved me back (sucked but oh well). I was definitely a lot happier when he was with me, and I got that feeling in my stomach anytime I saw him smile, when he walked and talked with me, or even when someone mentioned his name. I think that we tend to be attracted to the people we are, because it's what we believe is missing from our life or what we think we need more of to make us get that sense of joy. Personally, when I'm looking for a relationship I look for someone who will make me laugh and smile a lot, as well as someone who will have a loving and caring side that I know can support me. I do look for some things that I have in common with them such as athleticism or personality traits, but regardless I try to look for someone that'll have loyalty and trust. In my eyes the "perfect" relationship doesn't fully exist. There will be arguments and stupid fights over things that may not matter in the long run. But the thing that would balance the problems out is when both people are fully committed to the relationship and put in the effort to make things work. It's a relationship where they make each other unconditionally happy while having loyalty and trust, and better the people that they are because of the love they have for each other. My mom taught me about love and how it should work. She told me never to let a man, or anyone, treat me with disrespect no matter the situation. Her and my dad caring for my family is the first memory I have that showed an act of love. They always tried to be as patient and kind as possible while dealing with us. I think that this memory has affected my view of love by showing most times what it should be. If I could teach my future sons and daughters about love, I would tell them to be patient. You don't need to search for it or think you have a need for it. Don't rush into things and take your time. Relationships will last longer when you take your time to put in the effort you want and should have. Also, I would tell them not to settle for anything less than what they deserve. There isn't a reason to stay with someone who won't work to make you happy and treat you right.
ReplyDeleteMy definition of love would be when someone is so deeply attracted to someone that it makes them feel differently about them than anybody else in there life, and brings them so much happiness when they just think about that person. I myself don’t believe I have ever been in love, and most people would answer they have seen true love in their parents, but I haven’t. Since my parents got divorced when I was around two years old I never really saw this love in my parents. Where I have seen true love in my life is with my grandparents, they have been married since they were eighteen years old and is now about 52 years they have been married. While I didn’t see them before they were in love, I have seen other people before they were in love and people do change when in love. I think we are attracted to people because of many things, but mostly their personality and the little things that make them different from everybody else. When looking for a relationship I would think that you need to be able to see yourself with that person through everything, and to be able to trust each other. A perfect relationship would be where your always there for your partner and not let anything affect the love between you. Seeing others around me be in love taught me about love. It was my grandparents that I first remember seeing love, since I spent a lot of time at my grandparents house when I was younger. Although It didn’t affect how I see love, because love is different for everyone. I think that my kids would need to be able to see love on their own, but I just hope that I will be able to show them what a happy marriage looks like.
ReplyDeleteLove is when you are attracted to a person in a way that you aren’t with your friends and family. This is because this person brings you happiness in a way that no one else can. Furthermore, we are attracted to certain people because they fit best with your personality and like the same things that you like. I’ve never been in love, but I see the way my dad loves his girlfriend. When he started dating his girlfriend, I knew right away because his attitude changed. After divorcing my mom, my dad wasn’t the funny, weird, and awkward person that I knew, but all that came back once he met her. Also, no matter how upset my dad is, once his girlfriend walks in the door, his whole face brightens up. In potential relationships I look for someone that will understand me for me and still love me whether I have a makeup on or not. I don’t think that there is a single idea of a perfect relationship. I think that the idea of a “perfect” relationship is what you make it, but the general idea of it is to be happy with someone that loves you for you, and nothing else. I grew up in a house with divorced parents, so my parents never had a time when they were married after having me, that was happy. I learned about love by looking at relationships that my family members had that lasted. My earliest memory of seeing love was my uncle and aunt’s relationship. This was the first happy relationship that I saw and that taught me that not every relationship is going to end up like my parent’s. But, it took me a few years after my parent’s divorce to believe that statement is true. In the future, I will teach my children that not every relationship has the same outcome. Every relationship has a different outcome and reasons why it happened and you can decide what that outcome is. I’m also going to teach them that they aren’t going to fall in love whenever they want to, it’s going to take a long time to find that person that they’ll truly love.
ReplyDeleteI define love as someone that always brings you a feeling of happiness and joy. I don't think I've ever been truly in love, but I can see that my parents and grandparents are. Whenever they are around each other, they just seem much nicer and happier. They were probably were the first time I remember seeing love and they have shown me a lot about it. I think that we are attracted to people with good personalities that make us feel happy, and you make them feel the same. In a relationship, I look for people who are funny, nice, and I love to always be around. I want to teach my future kids to find someone they really love and get through the hard times in a relationship.
ReplyDeleteLove, is not a feeling. Love is an entity and state, not a feeling. Love enters the body from the eyes and right to the core of the heart and if it gets there nothing can remove it but death. There are six stages of love and the first one is the attachment of the beloved heart. You like to hear them, you like to see them, you like to touch them, you miss their smell, you miss everything about them which is called attachment, you're attached to this person. Love is blind, it will make you look at the good traits of the person you're in love with but ignore their bad traits which is why it's called blind. The second stage is volition, when you feel like you NEED this person, when you can't stop or hold your heart from beating for them and if you got to this point that you can't live without them then you're already in the third stage which is love. They're inside your mind you think of them while you're sleeping, eating, happy, sad, sick, or lonely, they became part of your mind and will not get out. The fourth stage is the purity of love, you love them the way they are you love them purely without wanting anything from them without wanting to change anything about them. The fifth stage is passion, which is when a soft thin membrane surrounds the heart and this thin membrane is the person you're in love with, this membrane prevents anyone else from entering you heart but this person. It's like you're heart has no place for anyone but them. The last stage is the most dangerous stage, where your body starts to get effected, your body reaches the levels of sickness and weakness because you're trying your best to make them stay and never leave. I've never been in love before, maybe because I don't believe in things until I see it, The only type of love I saw is the family type of love but not the other type of love that most of us are seeking in life. The one thing we're all looking for in a relationship which will make the perfect relationship is unity. Unity is when you and your partner are one person, you don't have to do the same things together every single day, you both unite on not hurting each other and truly loving each other. I've been taught the family love by my parents, but the other type of love I learned from the tv (which is not real). I can't really give advice on love and relationships now because I've never been in a relationship before, it has things to do with my religion so I've never experienced it before. But when I look at my friends that are or were in relationships I just think that this is not love they just like the other person and the relationships don't last long so where is the real part? or how am I supposed to believe in this type of love when I can't see it?
ReplyDeleteI had liked boys before, but I have never been actually in love. I honestly think this step comes after High school because most people in high school are experimenting. I have not had much experience with it. Most of my family members, including my parents had an arranged marriage, so basically, love came after marriage. Most Egyptians do not believe in love before marriage, they think that it is considered a sin. I think that the definition of love is when you meet someone who you get attached to. No matter what happens, you stick with that person and accept them for whom they really are. Love is a unique feeling you feel towards a certain person that you can not feel towards anybody else. I have not been in love, but I know my aunt has. Her behavior completely changes when she is around him. For example, she would be yelling at me for not for something, but when he calls she literally just goes to her room and locked the door. We are attracted to those we are due to their personality, or we might share similar traits. What I look for in a relationship is an honest and trustworthy person. Someone I could share every moment of my life with. I do not think there is a “perfect” relationship. Everybody argues and sometimes when you get to know a person better, you might not completely agree with their point of view about someone. What taught me about love are the movies and shows. In Egypt, there are many Turkish shows (They are translated.) that talk about love, so I just took what I saw on tv as what love is and what it feels like. My earliest memory of seeing love is when my aunt was engaged with her ex-fiancee. That did not leave me with a positive thought about love since he is her ex now.
ReplyDeleteTo me love means feeling a strong connection with someone that is unlike anything you’ve felt before. Love is deeply caring for someone and seeing the best in them, even if they don’t see it themselves. Love is a feeling of security, protection, and a sense of belonging. I’ve been in love with my wonderful boyfriend for almost 2 years now and I don’t know what I would do without him. He is one of the few people I can trust completely and always turn to in order to feel better. Our love for each other definitely changed us for the better. Before we met each other we were both very insecure and found it hard to trust others. Together we learned to love and trust, not only each other, but more importantly ourselves. My self esteem has gone up drastically since I met him and I’ve learned to love and appreciate myself much more. I think we are attracted to those who make us feel special and different from everyone else. We want to feel protected and reassured that we are not alone. I n a potential relationship, I look for someone who is kind, loyal, and trustworthy. My idea of a perfect relationship is one where both partners love and trust each other completely. Both people in the relationship should still have their independence and be the best possible version of themselves that they can be. The relationship should be good for their mental health and should make their lives easier, not harder. My parents were the first example of love that I saw. I am fortunate enough to have two parents who are both insanely in love with each other and rarely fight. This example of love taught me what love was and gave me a really positive and healthy view of love.
ReplyDeleteAh yes, love. The one question which I knew would rear its head in this blog, and the one I've probably will dread the most, at least for a while. Love is a complicated feeling, as there is no textbook definition for love. Most people have either felt love, or will feel love in life, and I believe that no two experiences or definitions of love are the same. My "definition" of love is when a person has become integrated into your life, and more importantly, into your soul. You won't forget about this person, you feel like you can trust this person with anything, and you'll probably feel a part of yourself leave when their time comes. If I have ever been in love before is something that I myself have absolutely no clue on. I am simply too young and honestly too naive to know if I have experience the love I had defined or not. I have seen love though, and that comes from my grandparents. They have been married for around 43 years, and every time I see them, they somehow seem to love each other more and more. They're in Italy as of now, so I can't really see them that often, but nonetheless. I'm not sure if their behaviour changed, because I wasn't alive to see them fall into love and to see that change, simple as that. There are a plethora of reasons for why a person could be attracted to another person. Personality, looks, the feeling of them completing them, etc. So the most logical reason for falling in love in the people that we do has to be because of a combination of all those factors, which results in a person falling in love faster than they can say the word. The main factor I look for in potential relationships is trust and respect. If one of those factors are not prevalent, it won't work for me. My idea of a perfect relationship is nonexistent, because there is NO perfection in relationships. Pessimistic, I know, but if I am looking for perfect, I am not finding anything. The person who had taught me the romantic type of love this question alludes to is probably various family members by picking up bits and pieces of information which I deemed to be morally and justifiably correct. My earliest memory of seeing love was probably seeing my grandparents, as my parents have been divorced for many years, and weren't as in love as my grandparents were when I was born and could remember seeing them. I don't feel like that memory largely impacts the way I view love, but it does somewhat. It shows me that "Hey, love IS possible, if both parties work for it". There is only one thing I would teach my future children about love, and like I stated earlier, love is different for everyone. The thing I would teach is that you should never keep yourself down when love doesn't work out. It's okay to be down for a couple days, or even longer. But you will have to pick yourself up again, because your heart isn't good when it's broken for good. You'll find love again. That is what I would teach.
ReplyDelete(Part 1) Google states that love is *clears throat* “An intense feeling of deep affection”.... wamp wamp wammmmpp.. pretty lame definition if you’d ask me. Oh, so now your wondering what I think love is? Love is an intense feeling but love is also something that you can see and hear. Seeing someone make the unimaginable effort to be your number one supporter. Seeing someone else put YOUR needs before their own makes a tremendous impact on a life. Hearing someone special say “I got your back” or something as vast as “I’m in love with you” can shape your perspective on someone with positive aspects. Seeing someone look into your eyes, hearing those three words can create an indescribable feeling such as love. Feeling like you can’t believe what you have is real.
ReplyDeleteAs I grew up, I saw what Love wasn’t. If that makes sense? Being in love with someone definitely is not letting your trust depart. Keeping your word to someone, making a promise, means so much to me. The reason for that is because my parents wouldn’t keep their promises to me. Hearing your parents tell you everything will be fine is comforting.. in the moment. Seeing your parents be emotionally and physically abusive isn’t. Keeping your word can have such a big let down on that persons life. You trusted that person with more than your life and they went and betrayed you..
I think it’s safe to say that being in high school is prettayyy early to say you are in love with someone. BUT, I know it’s still out there, only because I’m a sucker for a good love story. So I suppose there is another answer, I’m not in love nor have I been in love. I can’t quite say I’ve seen anyone in love. Simply for the reason that every relationship has their secrets and I’m not in their position... so how would I know? I have seen love change people. This might come off confusing, but I don’t truly believe that someone is in love if they are being manipulated or abused. I just don’t believe that is what true love will do. It’s the person who does those things. Their own screwed up head.
I’ve seen love change people for the better. Both of my parents found love with another person later in life and I couldn’t be more happier with the way the divorce resulted. I used to get so upset, sobbing myself to sleep of the fact my parents got divorced. If I’m going to be honest it still upsets me for many reasons but them splitting has made me realize that they have so much more to offer to their children, their job, and their own wellbeing. Being in that toxic relationship only resulted in negative acts. Seeing both of my parents happily engaged/ in a relationship with separate significant others changed not only their lives but mine.
I’m currently in a relationship. :) It hasn’t been for too long but I sure do know that I could spend the rest of my time with him. AS CRAZY THAT SOUNDS. What first caused me to be attracted to him? Ah yes. It wasn’t his cute button nose or his flattering smile. It was the gif he sent me when he first got my number. A star-wars gif of Anakin Skywalker. LIKE HELLO?? MY FAVORITE SERIES OF ALL TIME? YES PLEASE. I could go on and on about this man. Now disregarding all of what I said towards MY significant other, I think what makes you attracted to someone is the vibe you both create when you are with them. You could totally be your complete self with that person and they can return that energy. That’s what really pulls a relationship in. (Continued)
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ReplyDeleteWhat I look for in a relationship is balance. With everything.. the effort, communication, and energy. Support and loyalty. They all play big factors in a relationship. I also think it’s important to have a proper mental health going into a relationship. I believe that having someone be able to balance you out in your weak points, provide them with your strong points makes a relationship close to perfect.
I would like to thank not only my mom, but my dad, sister, and grandma for teaching me about love. Running around the house following my mother, calling out the only word I knew “mommy, mommy, mommy!“ That’s Love, I’m loved. When or if I have children, I have learned that you can’t make decisions for someone else in their relationship no matter how right you think you are. My kids will have to learn for themselves. As harsh as that sounds .. I’m still going to give them advice. As much as they will listen, I just know that I can’t make their decisions.. I will pry as much wisdom I can into their premature brains but they will develop their own definition of love the same way I did. Oh and if you read all of this, I love u ;) *drops mic*
As mentioned in my last comment, to our previous blog about what we value most, I absolutely value love. I know it sounds a bit unbelievable but I have been very in love. It happened at a very young age for me but I recently fell out of love. I know it seems a bit crazy that I'm talking about falling in love at such a young age but it happened. And that love was about as genuine as a mothers is to her child. (In my opinion.) I know quite a few people in love. When you're in love your behavior is expected to change. It could change when you first fall in love or it could change as you are falling out of love. Either way, love brings out a different side of you. I believe that we become attracted to those we are simply because have an idea of what kinds of people we want to be in love with. We have an idea of how we wanted to be treated in relationships. We all have our own fairytale love story. When someone is almost everything we’ve dreamt of, your heart develops so much more love for them. I think the most important thing to have in a relationship (besides loyalty, honesty, and well love. duh.) is someone who shares the same goofiness as me. I love to laugh and besides the obvious things that should be already included in a relationship, humor is something my relationship has to consist of. When you’re best friends first and then lovers I believe that calls for a perfect relationship. Nobody taught me about love. As I’ve gotten older I got a better idea of what love is and I’m able to identify the differences in what love is and what it should be and what it isn’t. I realized that all the times my mom made sure I ate or made sure I took a shower, that it was out of love. All the times she yelled at me and made sure I understood the consequences of my actions was out of pure, unconditional love. I’ve been shown love in other ways but this way is the most important way. I will teach my children that there are many ways to say I love you. There are many ways to show love. I will teach them that love is more than what you can provide materially and financially. I will tell them that as long as you are genuinely loved, you are so very blessed.
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ReplyDeleteEveryone has their own meaning when it comes to the word "love". The word "love" is just a word until you find someone to give it its definition. To me, love is caring for someone's happiness more than your own no matter how difficult the choices are that you might have to face. Of course you have to take care of yourself too but loving someone means caring for them as much as you care for yourself. Loving someone and being in love are completely two different things. Have I ever been in love? Love is a strong word. I would say no I haven't been in love. I don't really know anyone that's been truly in love other than my grandparents. Spending my childhood with them definitely showed me how being in love really is. Unfortunately, not everyone is meant to stay in your life. During this stage of my life, I think it is too early to say that I've been love. Although I haven't been in love, it doesn't mean I haven't truly loved someone. We get attracted to that special someone because you see something in them that you don't see in others. It could be the way they make you feel, their personality, etc. What I definitely look for in a relationship is balance and trust. I think the support, communication, the trust, play a big role in how strong a relationship could be. That's how I also view a perfect relationship. Being able to trust that special someone is important, supporting them and communicating with them is also very important. It isn't one person putting all the effort for the other. Who taught me about love? That's easy. My mom is definitely the one that taught me about love. After having a rough relationship with my dad, my mom's experiences taught me how to not only love the people around me but also love myself. I appreciate all the things that everyone has done for me in life. If you were to ask me who I truly love in this world. It's 100% my mother. What's the earliest memory of me "seeing" love? Hmm. Okay you know who you are if you're reading this. The earliest memory of me "seeing" love isn't too long ago. There is this special someone that I truly care for and still do right now as I'm writing this. I don't know if I can share that memory though lol... ok that's it :)
Love is caring about something or someone so much that when you’re with them/ it you’re lost and you feel like you lost a piece of yourself. My sister was in love before. She literally turned into a whole new person (that sounds so cheesy). She moved to North Carolina a couple years back because she felt like Jersey was holding her down but as soon as she moved she hit a rough patch in her life. She was at a party one day and ran in this boy and they instantly clicked. She later then dated that boy and her mood totally switched. She began to call my dad more often, she actually got of the house besides when she went to work, and she just looked happier. Her whole demeanor was literally something out of a movie. I think we’re attracted to the people we’re attracted to because they’re what we wish we could be. Most people you like have qualities that you like, and usually their other qualities you wish you could obtain, to balance you out. I look for somebody i can have an actual conversation with and who I can trust. A perfect relationship is one with trust, balance, respect, and true love. My mother first taught me about love when she held me in my arms as a baby, and being that I went to catholic school for 10yrs of my life I learned about loving yourself and loving God since preschool. I remember when I was a little after Valentine’s Day and my mom cut off a rose from the bouquet my dad gave her, and I asked why she was cutting a rose off, and she told me it was to cherish her Valentine’s Day with my father for that year, and she showed me the other flowers from years before. That literally blew my mind at such a young age and made my view in love be altered to love being a long lasting thing. I want my future children to know that you can’t chase love, and that love will come to them. Furthermore I hope the realize that some you love the most may not love you back or be good for you, and yeah it sucks but you have to keep moving on and know that it’ll come to you. You just have to trust the process. #trusttheprocess
ReplyDeleteTo me, love is something you feel when you're deeply attached to someone or something. Love is about caring, accepting, protecting and defending whatever you love. But love is also something that is almost indescribable, something you can never fully explain. It's an incredibly powerful emotion that people will finally feel at different times of their lives. As dumb as it sounds coming from someone my age, I feel like I am in love right now. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and I have never felt this way about a person before. I've never met a person outside of my family who has lifted me up so much and changed me as a person. Not only has my confidence and my view on myself and the world changed, but I have helped him achieve the same thing. With him, I know that I am cared for and protected, and I know he feels the same way too. I think attraction is one of the hardest things to define in a relationship. You can always use adjectives to describe something you love, but you could use the same adjectives to describe millions of things, if that makes any sense. My point is that, just like love, there is a deeper emotional connection that can't be described with words, or at least I haven't found a way to say it yet. In a relationship, the most important factors are honesty, trust and loyalty. Anyone in any kind of relationship needs to be open about their feelings or else things will begin to fall apart. The only way to fix or improve problems is if you bring them up to your partner in the first place. Relationships also need both people to be understanding and accepting of their significant other's feelings and emotions. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but you can make a relationship great. A functioning relationship needs the same amount of effort, love and care coming from both people. There needs to be a balance between both partner's actions and emotions. The first people to teach me about love were my parents and my grandparents, as many others might say too. The four showed me unconditional love and gave me the nurturing and education I needed to excel in life, which I will always be thankful for. They took the time to teach me their values and allowed me to grow as a person. The earliest memory I have of seeing love was when I was living in a different house, a different neighborhood with no other kids my age to play with. I clearly remember my Dad taking to the playground in the afternoons and spending time with me when I had no one else to spend time with. Every time we went to the playground, I came back happier than I was before. I don't know why, but those moments always remind me that he has always been there and loved me, and always will too. Lastly, if I ever have kids of my own in the future, I want them to know that love can be shown in many ways. Media and fantasy's should never influence their view of love. All they need to know is that love is not abuse, whether the abuse is physical or emotional, unintentional or intentional. The rest of their view on love should be learned from their own experiences, not taught. But if they ever have questions or need to talk about love, I will always give my views and advice.
ReplyDeleteTo me, in order to love someone is to truly feel connected to that person, to want to see them constantly and for the thought of them to bring a smile to your face and brighten your day. The term love is thrown around a lot and I believe that high school students are unsure of whether or not they’re 100% in love, many determine love by the length of their relationship. I for one have been dating the same girl for almost 3 years now and would consider that to being as close to love as one can get as a teenager. When I started dating my girlfriend in 8th grade I believe my behavior changed drastically. I began devoting more and more time to her and began wanting to spend every weekend hanging out with her. I also began looking for things that she would want instead of just for me.
ReplyDeleteEach person finds something different attractive. For some it could be physical attributes such as a certain hair or eye color while others look for what is inside such as the person’s personality or charms. I don’t know much about looking for relationships since the one I’m currently in is the only one I’ve ever been in but most people look for someone who has a personality that matches my own who enjoys doing similar things. Also someone who I can see any and every day of the week without getting bored or tired of them. While I do not believe a perfect relationship exists if I were to think one up I would like it to correspond with the following: Getting to see each other whenever we wanted to. Also always enjoying our time spent together without arguments or fighting. And finally spending each day together doing what we both enjoy doing. These are just some basic guidelines out of a plethora of preferences but these three are the beginnings of a perfect relationship in my eyes.
Love was taught to me by my parents and grandparents. Other than my parents on a day to day basis, my earliest memory of seeing love was the day my aunt and uncle got married. This memory reminds me that love should be worshiped and celebrated. My kids will have a lot to learn about love and relationships. Teachings such as: Neither love nor relationships should be rushed and that you don’t have to cling to the first person you meet because 9 times out of 10 they won’t be the one you spend the rest of your life with. Also love is blind, you don’t have to be the best at everything to get the girl you just have to treat them right and respect them. Finally flowers are always a nice touch.
My definition of love is obviously all that making each other happy and stuff but besides that, if you really love someone, you’ll love and support them no matter what they do, as long as the other person has the same energy. I’m pretty sure I’m in love right now with a girl. I’ve been in relationships where I’ve said I love you and didn’t actually mean it, but this girl I actually mean it. My behaviour has changed a little, I thought I was gonna be lonely through high school and college so that bummed me out sometimes so having a really good relationship right now is making me happier. With my friends I barely changed, I still go by the rule of bros before girls but I will skip hanging out with my friends to be with my girl most of the time. My idea of a perfect relationship is being comfortable around each other all the time, not being jealous of pasts or anything, actually liking the person for who they are, supporting each other about everything, and to not be mad at each other forever after little arguments, and that’s the relationship I’m in right now. My parents taught me about love, they read my texts and lectured me about being careful about saying love. Kanye also said something like, “love is a crazy thing, my cousin is in jail for murder and I still love him”. That quote made me realize that love means you love the person no matter what. My earliest memory of love is my parents kissing in the kitchen when I was five and I was like ew, but they still have the same love for each other now as they did back then. Keeping that same energy for about 30 years is what I see as true love and that’s what I want to have with my future wife.
ReplyDeleteLove is a powerful and irreplacable feeling of deep attraction that makes everything else seem trivial. I have never been in love, but my mom has countlessly told me stories about my grandparents. I do not know how they acted before their marriage, but even though it was an arranged marriage, the two of them utilized patience and trust to build a strong connection after having met for the very first time on their wedding day. Although, once my grandfather passed away, my grandmother has always displayed a visible emptiness, even with the unterminating love that my family and I provide. We are attracted to those we are because they may be similar to us in personality, but at the same time, know how to bring out the best in us. In a potential relationship, I primarily look for honesty, trustworthiness, loyalty, and a sense of humor, as I believe that these are important factors for an interesting and long-lasting relationship. “Perfect” relationships do not exist: my idea of a “perfect” relationship involves occasional arguments and bickering because no person is the same and everyone has different opinions. As odd as it may seem, if there are 0 arguments or bickering, something is off. My mom taught me about love while referencing my grandparents as a prime example. I have not witnessed love very often, but my earliest memory would be of my aunt and uncle’s love for each other; even with their occasional arguments, they make up in the end and move on because they understand that they are a team, and a team cannot move forward when there is constant disharmony. Overall, I would say that this memory affected my view of love for the better. I would want my children to know that it takes time to find true love and no matter who they are with, if they cannot be themselves then they should not be in that relationship.
ReplyDeleteThe topic of love is so vast and extensive. Some might even say it’s “customizable”. Although love is interpreted by many people in MANY different ways, I don’t think I can say that I’ve ever been in love with a significant other. In the instance that love applies to anyone, someone that I truly cherish is my grandmother. Her love for me, all things Syrian, food, music, dancing, and other people, all give off a radiant energy. Love, for me, is the ability to bring an overwhelming sense of light and joy to a room, no matter the circumstance. Love absolutely has the ability to change people, as I have seen it change my grandmother. As I have grown as a person, her love for me has grown, almost in a way that is toxic to her. Her constant stress, necessary reassurance, daily phone calls, and loss of sleep over me and my brother have negatively impacted her, in the most ironic form possible. Love can be damaging. I think we are attracted to other people both because we see attributes that they display which we don’t ourselves, and vice-versa. Another person can be used to better one’s own self, so a proper couple strives to better one another and be the best team possible. In a potential relationship, I would strive to have someone who is willing to listen to my problems, someone to binge watch movies with, someone to eat junk food and take long drives, and sit on facetime with until it’s time to go. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but as long as the other partner shows mutual interest and feels comfortable being around their “boo”, the relationship can only grow from there. The first time I saw love was when I actually started acknowledging what was going on around me, maybe at the age 4 or 5. I saw how much my mom’s parents (my grandparents) loved each other, hugging and giving one another a little “peck” at every opportunity. Given that I’ve seen this from a young age, it doesn’t really change much for me. Their effort to constantly show each other signs of affection went a long way, and that, in my opinion, is the key to a healthy and long lasting relationship. To my future children, I would make sure they know not to rush anything or give up hopes of finding someone they love, no matter how ugly they might come out (it’s all in the genes…)
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